You fell down. We all have done it and will do it again as we learn. We can talk all day on these forums and I am convinced you will never find a better place to get advice and what you need to make it through this.
The fact remains that we have to experience this stuff to learn. Oh yeah you know when you make a mistake because of what you have heard here but you still have to make it(most likely) to know why it has to be so...
I had to experience the pain of being too close to W before I learned I had to detach...
I had to experience the pain of W shutting me down to know I can't control...
I had to experience the pain of knowing details about OM before I stopped snooping...
I had to experience the loss of my W and my M to know that what she is doing is because of her own pain and not to hurt me...before I could STAND calmly and be the beacon in my M.
Everything you do that causes you pain will point you in the direction you need to go.
The pain hurts but it is also your friend and it is speaking to you if you will listen.
Be strong GF...live well out of respect for you
Last edited by Truegritter; 05/04/1002:10 PM. Reason: can't spell good
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
