Kissak - your situation gives me hope that anything is possible, you have been where I am and eventually your H came back.
I'm going over the conversation I had with him yesterday and remembering what he had said. For example I said "Do you still believe the OW? She has been flip-flopping for so long". He said "We both have, it's hard...but this is a process". So maybe he is not as sure as he appears, but he has new resolve now that she has decided to give it another go. It again gave him the strength to push all of his other feelings aside. They pump each other up every time they reconnect.
OW's H said that his W told him that it was her who pulled the plug last time and my H was really upset about it, but came running back to me the same day telling me that he wants to R.
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
