If you want to, you can revisit my 15 months of posts under the newcomers thread. I'm not going to revisit it except to say "I'm Done!" I have done everything could, worked as hard as I could and tried everything I could to save the M. I no longer want to be married to her.
So now, I am the one pushing forward with the divorce - as fast as I can make it go. We had our first meeting with the mediator yesterday, and although he seems to be GREAT I am strapping in for a very bumpy ride. My STBXW is hanging on to a fantasy view of her life after D which is not only unreasonable, but impossible given our finances and cost structure. Behind the mediator, she has consulted with a big name aggressive lawyer....and so have I.
We are still living in the same house, but have separated bedrooms and are alternating weekends with the kids.
I'm going to try to stay off the boards as much as possible - it starts to consume me and I have a huge amount of work to do to get ready for the divorce. My w is emotional and tries to win arguments by making grand, vague and accusatory statements. My plan it to remain unemotional and have facts and figures available to counter any accusation she makes. ("You make WAY more that THAT" - "No, here are my pay stubs, all tabulated and summarized", etc.)
In parallel, I am trying to plan a new life, separate from her - and looking forward to it. This weekend, the kids and I are going to have fun together. Next weekend, I'm going on the hunt for a smaller cheaper house. The weekend after that I'm taking the boys camping.
Life is Good.
Take care
-Thinker
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
My STBXW is hanging on to a fantasy view of her life after D...My w is emotional and tries to win arguments by making grand, vague and accusatory statements.
Read you lima-charlie. And if you Think it was bad before, you ain't seen nothing yet.
I'm going to try to stay off the boards as much as possible - it starts to consume me
Fortunately we all seem to have a slower pace down here at the bottom of the webpage
I agree with SP, it is a tad slower over here, but you will be in good company here Thinker. Good for you on moving on and doing fun things with the kids. Good luck on the mediation, I never had to do any, but I am thinking that it may happen soon as some changes need to be made in my sitch.. Shock
Thinker, you and I have very similar sitchs although I must say my STBXW is being much more fair. That almost hurts -- she so wants to be away she's giving away stuff she could win in court.
Or perhaps I'm just looking for things to complain about.
Good luck Thinker.
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My w is emotional and tries to win arguments by making grand, vague and accusatory statements. My plan it to remain unemotional and have facts and figures available to counter any accusation she makes. ("You make WAY more that THAT" - "No, here are my pay stubs, all tabulated and summarized", etc.)
"Is that so?," "Uh huh," and silence also work well at times. Good plans, good PMA and, yes, "Life is Good." Good Luck.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
