So RobX, asking this honestly, how do/did you navigate dating other people without developing romantic feelings for them and falling in love? Or how did you let them know you weren't looking for anything long term? And did you find you needed to settle a little, meaning choose to date people that weren't of the calibre (sp) that you wanted for a long term relationship?
I guess every person is going to be different, I just wouldn't develop romantic feelings and fall in love that easily. Say for example you meet new employees at the workplace, do you develop romantic feelings and fall in love with them during your first introduction and meeting? I know I sure as hell don't ;-)
I have dated 5 different women in 1 week (a different date per day) and I didn't develop romantic feelings for any of them, there was possibly some physical attraction but not enough for me to want to pursue it (they all wanted 2nd dates so maybe they were operating from a viewpoint of scarcity, not many good men left, etc.). Mind you I was employing a different mindset, one of abundance vs. one of scarcity. I have so many options now in front of me that I can be picky and choosey and when you have that attitude you will take your time in deciding what's best for YOU. That's the mindset to have: YOU HAVE OPTIONS.
That's similar to the mindset of a WAS. They don't want you anymore, they feel they have options, they want to experience what's available, etc.
NewMama, do you really feel you're going to fall in love on your first date with a stranger? A usual first date is simple: meeting up for some coffee or going out for some drinks. Does coffee and introductory chit chat do it that easily for you? I guess everyone is different. From my own perspective I can walk down the street and be physically attracted to a dozen different beautiful women but that doesn't mean I'm going to fall in love with every one of them.
