W still wants separation, need to DB more

[OfficerInNeed]

Maybe I have been too giving. I usual only do if she asks. I don't randomly give or get for my W. If she asks of me then I have no problem doing.

My W is VERY moody. For example when I came home from work this morning my W had work up coughing non-stop hovering over the sink spitting up all her congestion....She looked and sounded vulnerable. Then this morning my W is getting ready to go and her whole attitude has shifted. She now is being short with me...When I said something to her she would respond "What?" in a very stern tone.

Most times I want to say something back but bite my tongue because I don't think what I would say or the tone I would respond in will sound or be constructive. I don't want it to turn argument about her feelings toward me.

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When our sitch first began I wanted to do everything for her without her asking, then I learned that was not healthy. Then there was a period my W "could do for herself" and did everything for herself to show me she is very capable. Now she calls on me often...to engage in a conversation or whatever it maybe.

My W once in a while will look at my phone but nothing like it use to be. She simply picks it up while it is sitting out in the open and then sets it back down. I really don't mind and in most cases I use that to my advantage.