Crossing the Rubicon

[saffie]

Joie,

What are you going to do? How can we support you?

((((((HUGS))))))

[kat727]

I am sorry, I don't come here much anymore. I don't know many of the people and I suppose that is my own fault. I am more than happy to help all I can. What can I do for you?

hugs, kat

[lovelyolive]

I'm here for you, too... I wish I could leave my e-mail address...

[JoieDeVivre]

Sorry it took me awhile to get back here. I only have a minute or two right now so this will be short.

H is taking this business trip and OW is going with him ... why? Because of all the places in the USA that he could be going to, OW actually has cousins there! Wow, holy sweatpants batman, imagine the coincidence of that!

Sorry H but my bull crap meter is in the red zone.

I've had enough of his lies and betrayal. I've done nothing but enabled him because I love him. I've asked him to move out. He is working on finding a place. Not fast enough in my opinion.

While he's enjoying his little trip with OW, I'll be lawyering up. Seriously. Have an appointment on Thursday.

[saffie]

Sometimes it takes that final straw to make one come to a decision.

Look after yourself and that very special and talented D of yours - she is lucky to have a mom like you.

[Lotus]

Joie,

You have a heart of gold, and a backbone of steel. Use the backbone for a while!

[kat727]

Just wanted to check in on you. How did the appointment on Thursday go?

kat

[JoieDeVivre]

It went well -- very well. I liked the lawyer (a woman) a lot. Gave me some good advice. I see another one this week.

H is moving out. He thinks he found a place and if his application goes through, he could be gone this weekend. Happy Mother's Day to me! I really unleashed some pent up anger at him last weekend when he got home from his trip. He said he had been looking but after me spitting nails at him all night, he said he'd speed up the process. He admitted that making me live this way was not right. We've agreed to a trial separation.

I'd like to make it legal but he doesn't want to get lawyers involved. That's great for him. He's just going to continue living like he has been but what about me? Do I really want to be frozen another 2-3 years? Don't think so.

We spent last night talking about what he needed to take with him. What he could take or couldn't take. Seemed unreal...

[Lotus]

Hi Joie,

I'm glad to see that you are moving forward. Sounds like he wants to avoid consequences for his actions.

[kat727]

Good for you realizing that it is not fair or in your best interest to stay in limbo over this. I know it is difficult but the past few years have been too. I think it is better to be making progress.

kat