No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

[MrBond]

My W lives with her sister and we split the kids 50/50. I get them Sun-Tues. and she gets them Wed. -Friday. We alternate Saturdays although we usually spend the whole day together with them.

She complains that she wishes she could have the kids all of the time and I just looked at her and said that was the most selfish thing I have ever heard of since I am their father. There was a time when she said something about how she should have the kids since it would be in their best interest. So I told her, how much of "their interests" did she consider when she had her A with her boss. And to think if she really thought of them when she was cheating. That shut her down.

It may sound cruel, but hey it is what it is. She threw all that stuff at me emotionally/verbally when she was in her position of "power" and all I'm doing is repeating what she said. Sometimes you need to be firm to assert yourself and to show that you aren't going to be pushed around any longer. It doesn't mean that you yourself have to be mean-spirited and nasty, but you can throw a few truth darts at them so that the start realizing the consequences of their actions.

I don't say it to hurt her or make her feel guilty. I merely tell her the truth. Alot of time she looks at me in shock saying that she doesn't "remember" saying any of those things.

So in my sitch, my W did have an A. It was an EA, but it was with her boss and I couldn't compete with someone whom she saw all the time. He dropped her like a bad habit though and said he was "working things out" in his M. He just wanted to get in her pants and I told my W that flat out. Up to her if that's the kind of man she wants to go out with.