My sitch has become more and more out of hand. It is very disappointing that it is this way. I wish and pray everyday that would change. I have tried to communicate with her better, but it just does not seem to work. She has commented that we need to go to counseling so if we divorce we can communicate better for the kids. When I went to MC, it was for the R and nothing more. All she has to do is end the A,and I think our communication would improve significantly over time.
We both love to talk, but at the moment not to each other. That is so sad. We use to talk all the time.
I wish that I could have some success like you had with your H, but my wife is very stubborn and self-righteous at the moment. She will not take responsibility for anything in our marriage at the moment. I MC tried, but she did nothing to change the attitude, so I do not know why she would want to go back again.
You are so right, I just wish someone could convince her of this fact.
Thanks for the advice, and I will try again sincerely to accomplish what you have suggested.
LSG,
Just so you know. Mine is thinking the same way. Its a big, fat and stinky ego. The stuff this ego wants me to cover and the [censored] it wants me to hold is in-credible. Any I used the line "so we can learn to communicate better" to get her in the counseling in the first place.
What I'm saying is maybe these waywards are communicating somehow and its moving far.
Go to the counseling. Let the wife talk, good counselors will not allow it to get too one sided and will attempt to mesh it to a common viewpoint. Do as much counseling as your wife will allow.
I got lucky because its covered on my medical insurance.
