Need a Plan for My Marriage

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I am sure that I do not want a divorce. It disgusts me to think about what the two of them have done. Will I be able to forgive? In time I am sure that I will. Forget, probably never. I can live with that if wife would come clean and profusely apologize. Will that happen? Maybe, maybe not. More like it will be probably not. I will have to move on at that point for myself and my kids.

There could be more to her reasoning for an A than me being unemployed for so long. If she does not tell me or try to work it out, then I will never know. She keeps on about the job, so that is my assumption.

She would have to prove it to me in some way that I would accept in her apologizing for the A. I don't know how I will know. I know it would take time too. I am doing my best to have the best environment that is possible at home, but I do not intend to be a doormat or be more accommodating than I have been. I have given to much, and she is giving nothing at this point. I will give my last shread of dignity I have remaining to her while she has an A with the OM.

Actually give very little criticism to her. It is her that is twisting the dager in our R slowly in my heart. You are right about the money, but I have to do something to assure that we do have money to pay the bill fully. She has made everything her decision all the time. She has to realize that our marriage does have boundaries, and she has to stop crossing them, or there will be consequences.

A solution was found because she knew that if she did not put the money in the rent would not be paid. The may not have happened if I had not done what I did. Had to do!

I appreciate the comments, but I have to do something to take care of myself and the kids.