All right, guys, I need some advice here, please.

I'm to the point of feeling like I have done all the work in restoring this M to the point of exhaustion and I still don't feel like it's *right.*

I know everyone is going to suggest he's having another A, but I'm almost to the point of not caring. You see, I KNOW he knows if it happens again, that will be IT.

Anyway, for my H to seem as if he's not interested in S is very unusual and that's exactly what is happening right now. That's what's bothering me right now. He isn't touching me the way he usually does around the house & he isn't initiating at all. The not initiating isn't really the unusual thing though. He's always been higher drive than me and that was part of our problems to begin w/, but I've made sure that we've been having S on a regular basis ever since we "worked things out." Anyway, here lately, it's just like he's not even interested or cares whether it happens or not.

Sometimes I just feel like a second class citizen in this house. Like I'm here to do my "job" and since it's being done, than everything is kosher.

I just don't know what to think or do anymore.

Last edited by RedHeadWife; 05/04/10 04:01 AM.
Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10