Husband left me 3 months pregnant...

[newmama]

And frankly, I didnt sign up to raise a baby alone... and any help I can get from H would be great... and great for the baby. I need to know I gave it all i got!

yes...the amount of time that WH spent here (and spends) with S has been very helpful. My friends who are married told me that WH spent more time with S than their H's...and they have good H's! It's just the wacky silver lining is that because your H will want to be with your son, he will BE with your son-like quality time. And you can use that time to take a shower or eat something or sleep, etc. (and GAL when the baby is old enough-probably 3 months or so)

You need just one person to rely on. we are here for you, but you need one physical presence also. If you need a disclaimer for your down moods, day "I am really sorry that I keep talking about this but I really need you just listen to me today...or let me get this off my chest...".

If it helps BD, I spend 80% of my talking time talking about my sitch.

SOOOO true for me as well during this time last year- talking to someone or many really really helped me get through it. My best friend told me that she understood that I needed to talk about it and could as much as I wanted with her. (of course I was sure to not bombard her too much- there is guilt involved in unloading on someone so much!)

You cannot 'get over it' - you are going through a protratced grieving process where this is NO closure because of the baby. No closure.

So true. No closure for our H's either.