The ONLY thing in life we have no choice in is dying. EVERYTHING else we choice to do, we do not have to get dressed in the morning. It is our choice. Of course if we don’t we are responsible for our own actions and well... walking around naked could land you in jail... What I am getting at here buddy is if you choice to keep living the way you are that is fine. But then you can’t complain about your situation because that is how you chose to live. If you don’t like how your sitch is then change it. Of course there will be consequences to your actions and you will have to live with them.
“In the spirit of Acting As If, maybe I need to allow her to pursue friendships with other couples, much like we did when we went to lunch with a couple from our dance studio. During that lunch, the topic of vacationing together came up.”
This is great AS LONG AS IT INCLUDES YOU.
“My fearful, worrying side thinks about all the different ways it could go wrong. I'm too preoccupied with how they will view me, my W, and our M. Again, my incineration is to avoid venturing into something potentially positive, until it seems safe to do so.”
Buddy who the hell cares how they view you? If that is an issue then they are not people you would want to associate with anyway,
NO FEAR big guy…If you want to do this THEN DO IT…
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
