The biggest thing is to understand what detaching is. It doesn't necessarily mean you don't physically see them or not stay in physical contact. It means you detach from their drama.
It's like the WAS is on a roller coaster going through all the twists and turns. You have a choice. You can either get on the roller coaster with them and get dragged along their mistakes and drama, OR you can get off and let them go through the ride themselves while you go off and do something you want to do like grabbing cotton candy.
Point is, don't let the WAS's drama become yours. There were times when my W was at her worst and I took everything personally. Things started to shift when she would go off on a rant and I could stand back and not be affected by her words. It was almost like she became the weird homeless person muttering to himself. I just let her do her own thing.
Did it hurt doing it? Yes. Was I afraid of losing her? Hell yes.
But you do it a little at a time and rebuild your self-esteem.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
