My H and I have had so many moments of apparently being on the verge of reconciliation and so I give so much and I step up and then next thing I know, it's crystal clear that it's never really going to be on 100%.
I wonder what would happen if you required more of him before you give so much.
I don't second guess what I've done. Our marriage was very damaged. We ahd an opportunity to experience each other very positively in the past year and a half, without that, I wouldn't have believed him if he did want to go all in...it would have seemed disingenuous.
Now, I did require more from him; I asked him to make a decision as to whether he is willing to try and he said he's confused...blah blah blah. So, if he wants to be single, he can be single.
