Just wanted to let you know I have caught up with your sitch after giving DB forum a rest for about 6months. It took me nearly a full week to catch up on your threads as I had a back injury and the painkillers kept sending me to sleep!
I think you're awesome and I'm soooo beyond glad you finally told the kids you are divorced (or in kids speak, not getting back together). Your kids sound extra smart - they know deep down what was going on and as someone else said, they wanted you to clarify it for them.
I'm still separated and extremely tired of limbo. H doesn't want a divorce and wants to spend time together but won't commit to couples counselling till he gets his own train back on track. Sounds mature doesn't it? Only thing is, we have been separated for three years now and I'm pretty resentful that he gets 'all this time and space' to work on himself and I feel like I'm struggling to keep my head above water just with day to day life. I just want a mature relationship where there is teamwork, structure, planning and connection and conversation and....
Maybe I want too much.
Anyway,.... returning you to your regular BBJ programming.
** Purple
As soon as you trust yourself you will know how to live. Goethe
