rysmom's story

[MrBond]

Checking his web history is just as bad. All you're doing is making yourself worry about something that may or may not be true.

Another thing is, if you know he has a history of crazy spending, then buckle down your savings if you can and get a job. Any job.

Stop coming up with excuses as to how bad the economy is. If everyone thought like that, then the country couldn't run. Or file for unemployment and government assistance. Just something.

I understand you're going to school, but just say, what would happen if your H was gone. How would you survive? How would you AND your son survive.

You can't count on your H right now. You can't have him. He doesn't want you. That's the truth. As bad as that sounds, it's the truth. I don't need to KNOW him. It's the reality of the situation.

You said you're a runner. Well you're running uphill now. You're going to have to fight for every step. But you have to FIGHT.

Stop feeling so sorry for yourself. I have a friend who is a single parent who just lost one of her children in an accident. She deals with it on her own. She has dealt with it and has made it a point to move on. You can do it to.

First off I would really suggest you get some professional help. You've come up with so many excuses of how you are codependent on your H, how you have no friends, etc. Well now you know what your problems are.

You have two choices...live or die. Is the latter really an option? Is that what you want to show your son? That his mom was a weak woman who complained about how life was "unfair" all the time? Or do you want to show him a woman who is strong and leads by example? Watch the Blindside for an example of a strong woman. You can do it.

There's your 2x4 for the day.