That must be really hard for you. Why can't he pack his own crap?
While none of us wants to do any of this we just HAVE to do it.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
I don't want him here that long. I figure if it's packed he leaves faster.
I just found out who his attorney is. The guy doesn't seem to be a high powered one so we'll see. I personally wouldn't have picked him he is very far from the courthouse where we'll be handling things.
Ugh I have that awful sick feeling in my stomach. I'm sad too. I guess I better start changing my thoughts so that my emotions follow huh? much easier said than done!
It's gonna be a long night of thoughts..someone turn off my brain.
Luv
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
Luvless: Hang in there and be strong. Purge those demons from your thoughts and focus on you and your kids. You will make it through this.
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012
I'm following along Luv, and ... you're *surviving*- you're doing it right now, every minute. It's something to remember and be proud of, even if you still feel very sad. Break up the day as much as you need to, hour by hour, to get through it. Soon you will be doing more than "getting through it", but you have to get through it first to get to that other place, and there's no quick or easy way through except what you're doing. You are a strong woman Luv- you can do this and we're all rooting for you.
((((Luv))))
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
Shel - so cute that you call me luvly...thank you for your cheers. I will do my best to get my arse moving in a positive mode today.
Any - nice of you to stop by and give your support
CG - my dear friend..no words to express my gratitude
Alice - so true..I am "surviving" every hour through this..sometimes I becomes overwhelming and so sad then I feel ok (well never truly ok) but better so I am working so hard trust me...thank you for being here.
Good morning everyone...I had a rough afternoon yesterday. I felt like bursting into tears at several different moments but I composed myself. I guess after talking to my atty and hearing of Mr. Luv's atty it hit me. What do I expect huh?
Today is a very busy day for me. I am getting ready to go for a morning swim and then I have lots of work to do. I have been avoiding like the plague packing up Mr. Luv's things
I will try and get some shopping in for me and I've got some girlfriends coming over for a couple beers tonight. I'm looking forward to that.
I have a sinking feeling inside that I'm battling but I'm really appreciating everyone's support here. I know it gets hard after a while..being on the boards...like...does anyone have anything good to say? I want to get there soon.
Luv
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M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
This is a process. All you can do is surrender to the process and work each step. The way I see it if you (general you, not you per say) don't do that now it will bubble up at some other point in your life.
The packing of the things was an odd experience for me. In a way I felt very sad but in a way I felt very purged and sort of "cleaned out".
I do think it is *very* positive your H went with a smaller firm instead of one of the big guns you anticipated he would hire. Mellow is the name of the game now.
Find beauty in today. We won't ever get another May 4, 2010 EVER so might as well make the most of it
Just catching up. I had to take a few days away. Then this weekend went to hell.
Good Lord, I can relate to that sinking feeling in your gut. We recognize what it is and what we SHOULD do to get rid of it. Knowing and doing are two different things.
I'm sorry for your pain, I really am. Love those kids with all of your heart! (I know you do!) My children are helping me through this and they don't even know it. They shouldn't know anything other that we love them with all of our soul.
I'm sorry not to offer any advice. I understand how you feel and pray that you find comfort and closure somehow.
