Time for darkness.... (thread number 3)ears open

[james217]

Stop and think. If your W cannot even respect YOU why do you think she will respect YOUR children? You have gotten a very clear picture of how your W behaves so exposing your children to further hurt is confusing to me. Your children are so fragile right now and your W will do them NO GOOD at this time. I don't care if she begs or cries. Tough.

Just because your W 'demands' you do something doesn't mean you have to do it. Set boundaries and mean them. Any hurt your W causes your children this point forward is on you as you can stop the contact. Please do that. Your children need protection right now.

yep I know it that's why I'm angry. He had just been begging to talk to her and I hate to disappoint him. He had been upset and very sad about it. So when I saw her 2 saturdays ago and he called and asked to speak to her I didn't want to lie to him and say she wasn't there. They had a long lonng conversation and she told him how much she missed and loved him and would be in his life.

But whatever. This is really saddening to me. I really cannot understand how she can treat him like this. I would never DO SD8 this way. That was the whole point of the build a bear.

*sighs*

I think i'm really going to go cry because he was crying his head off and there's nothing I can do or say to make it better.

He wants to speak to her and I tried to console him but it's not working

[james217]

James~

You are still getting fantastic support so I am not going to say anything except for this...

I'm wondering if I should say anything cause she just flat out lies to my face and i'm wondering if I should just take a stand and maybe d/c the phone.

Just disconnect the phone with no notice to her...

Confronting her on lying to your face is just going to bring about more lies to your face.

Take the stand.

my early termination fee is bonkers because we just reupped our contract. She knows that.

Maybe ill look into getting another carrier and changing my number but that would be nuts. All of my doctors and family and people have this number and it would be ridiculous to have them do that.

heck I have some doctors on call with that number. it's even going to be on my diabetic medic bracelet i'm getting. sighs

this is sincerely truly fuKKEd up and just mean

[james217]

Thank u for the replies.

[james217]

so former mutual friend all of a sudden sends me one of her little spiritual chain letters. The ironic thing is how she all of a sudden just starts doing this again. My anger got the best of me and I totally stated exactly what was on my mind. It may not help things or my sitch but I really did not care. It felt good. With former friends like her who needs enemies

[james217]

Text this morning from WAW in response to my text YESTERDAY

Well I'm deeply sorry......I was busy.....I hadn't had time to read the text messages....so I didn't know s10 wanted to talk to me.... Ok......H.....as I stated b/f I'm sorry.....there's nothing I can do about it now....r u going to keep fussing about it...........I'm very sory I missed his call........


I have said nothing I'm very upset. She did not use her phone or text even a few hours before I called and texted about s10. *shrugs*

What irks and annoys me is the fact that earlier in the day u could talk to toxic ex mutual friend and attempt to call"alternative lifestyle" EA OM(ill call him alomea from now on) but for the rest of the day u did not see a text about s10.

She's still down there with sd8 so she may have been taking care of paternal grandmother.

Then what can u do about it? I don't know maybe even suggest trying to talk to him today? But that's asking for a lot from her I guess. That's been a major issue and one of my pet peeves with her.

When you're sorry you show remorse you make amends and try not to repeat the same behaviour otherwise the words mean nothing and it doesn't seem sincere.

[CityGirl]

Why not just block this toxic friend from your e-mail? Ripping her an e-mail filled with anger does nothing other than giving her the reaction she was expecting from you.

Protect your children. They have been through way too much as it is. If your W cannot commit to a simple phone call then avoid having your child hurt by not putting anybody in a position again to not follow through.

I agree there is a huge difference in being sorry and showing remorse. The thing is, the WAS may never show remorse in the way you need/want them to. Again, focus on you. You are doing way too much speculating about your W.

[james217]

Thanks for the reply cg I'm on my way to WAW to give her her weekly allowance. I'm going to be very cautious with the kids. Well see what happens. I don't expect anything. A lot of women in the class are really boosting my esteem. I've gotten a few compliments this week and it makes me blush. Work is really fun

[james217]

Well today is my bday. Not a great one. Job did not think id be able to have the cornea transplant and still work so ill get surgery done and go from there.

Waw is in psychiatric care. I'm not going to type out everything right now but she acted really crazy tried to take pills and would not go get help. So I filled out a mental health illness form. (Doctor stated I should) and the police took her in squad car to the hospital

Happy birthday to me

[CityGirl]

Happy Birthday.

Sorry about the job situation. I am a little confused. Why did you take the job knowing you would need surgery soon after accepting employment?

You did the right thing for your WAW. She has problems you are not equipped to handle and professional and clinical care is what she needs. Before anything can happen you both need to be healthy and perhaps this is the first step for her. It will be a long road but maybe this time she will start to walk the road.

I assume something went down when you went to give her the allowance money last night?

[james217]

Happy Birthday.

Sorry about the job situation. I am a little confused. Why did you take the job knowing you would need surgery soon after accepting employment?

You did the right thing for your WAW. She has problems you are not equipped to handle and professional and clinical care is what she needs. Before anything can happen you both need to be healthy and perhaps this is the first step for her. It will be a long road but maybe this time she will start to walk the road.

I assume something went down when you went to give her the allowance money last night?

I needed to see if I could do the job and I'm just not healthy enough right now. It wasn't supposed to pan out this way the state is taking too long to get everything set up and id have to miss too many days of work. Surgery is just day surgery. Recovery time a year with an eye patch on. Plus my disability lawyer wanted to see how companies would act about it. I'm also trying to pay off my child support

And yep I'm on my phone and its dying but.we went out to eat she asked about work. I told her about bday party. There was hugging and kissing nothing else.

She got jealous and went through my jacket when I went to use her restroom after my bday dinner. She finds a number from a coworker and gets livid. Mind u this coworker is engaged and wanted to pay me for a laptop repair (me and waw business)

My phone was in my jacket I thought it was locked but it wasn't she sees female friends. One I dated years ago and is married I taught her to db (even though I suck at it) and posted about that on here. Another is a friend I dated 4 years ago who knows waw. Her nephew is my friends

To be continued on the phone