Time for darkness.... (thread number 3)ears open

[james217]

Oh, I wasn't suggesting you say anything to your W about her choice in friends. Just keep observing what she does and who she does it with.

If she tries to initiate a R talk simply tell her you are not ready for one. Honestly, unless you are both in IC I don't see how any R talk can be productive. Right now all you do is trigger each other's negative qualities. And you both have too much that has to be worked out as individuals.

You need to focus on YOUR positives. You like your job and co-workers, you seem to be doing well at work, you are earning money again, you have structure and are developing better sleep patterns. All good things for YOU.

Yep I'm focusing on my positives but I do also think one thing. I think I'm going to have to say something about the lying from WAW I can't take it anymore.

I'm wondering if I should say anything cause she just flat out lies to my face and i'm wondering if I should just take a stand and maybe d/c the phone.

I'm not going to support her talking to her E.A. (even if he likes women) on the phone.

I'm tired of the bs. I'm getting fed up with it. I don't deserve to be treated so shytty.

I'm thinking the next time we talk to tell her I won't share her, I won't take the lies anymore or any of t hat crap and just have to enforce the boundary even if it means losing her because this is absolutely ridiculous.

before I do it I'm just wondering what you think C.G. good idea? bad idea?

so much for need time and space and to think about her thoughts. she's managed to talk to toxic ex mutual friend several times. attempt to call E.A. and make other calls as well while good ole H just gets avoided and lied to.

I dont really know how much more of this I can take or be patient about.