I don't think I have posted to you before but I do read along. I pray that God will lift you up and grant you peace and guidance at this time. I know that what you are going through must be very hard. I think that sometimes you have to give people what they want. Let Go and Let God. This may be your time to concentrate on healing yourself, always being polite and kind to your H but essentially letting him go.
You have handled yourself with class and I am sure that you will continue to do so.