Great to see you're still around. In your sitch when your H is saying he wants to have a one-way "open marriage", that's not cake-eating. That's CRAZY TALK.
Hope your kids are doing well.
stuck808 (now MrBond)
Hi darling! I like the name change!
With regard to my H, I don't think he was proposing that we have an open marriage. I asked him if he could have it any way he wanted what would it be and he said that's his fantasy. I prefer the truth anyway so it really doesn't bother me. I want a lot of things I'm not going to get. I don't think it is crazy. Some people do have open marriages and I even contemplated it (maybe better than most people who cheat and lie, and it is MOST people). So, I don't really even judge it, I just know that I can't make that deal with him.
What bothers me is that the crux of it is he doesn't want to have to make any decisions or give anything up. He doesn't want to carve it out and make agreements, commitments, open marriage or not. He's just floating in space and going where the wind blows. He is being paid to be far away 95% of the time (since he left me)...so, some day, he will come back around and have to face his creation. Or maybe he'll just keep floating.
