I came to a similar realization back in Dec/Jan. I was hell-bent on filing for D. Then someone on these boards gave me the advice that I should only take that step if that is what I truly wanted (a D) and not in reaction to her actions or non-actions.

I thought about it, and I transitioned to a neutral state. Now, if she continued the EA and didn't move out I am not sure what I would have done, but even now that she is moving out I am still not going to file for D for now. I figured I would know when the timing is right.

I am still waiting for that moment.

ME/XW:47
S21, D19, S15, S14
M:21 T:26
W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12
W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline