I think it's kind of self-defeating / soul sucking to offer fidelity, whether it is emotional, physical, spiritual to someone who isn't willing to do the same for you.
Man, personally, I wouldn't think of it as offering a danged thing. It's a boundary I set for myself and nobody else, and I set it based on a lifetime of making poor choices in relationships. I used to think I needed to be getting other female attention whenever a relationship was in trouble. It never made me feel better about myself in the end ( but it did drive some exes into crazy land).
I just don't want the regret. It's something I do for myself. I was dating 2-3 women at a time when I met my W. I know I can do that again. Sometimes that was fun, sometimes it was terrible, but I am not afraid of it, and if I were single I know what I would be doing and how to go about it.
Last edited by TimeHeals; 05/03/1010:44 PM.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
