Oh, I wasn't suggesting you say anything to your W about her choice in friends. Just keep observing what she does and who she does it with.
If she tries to initiate a R talk simply tell her you are not ready for one. Honestly, unless you are both in IC I don't see how any R talk can be productive. Right now all you do is trigger each other's negative qualities. And you both have too much that has to be worked out as individuals.
You need to focus on YOUR positives. You like your job and co-workers, you seem to be doing well at work, you are earning money again, you have structure and are developing better sleep patterns. All good things for YOU.
