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Originally Posted By: LSG
1. Could you make a list of all the reasons you want to divorce her? I do not want to divorce, but I am finding my options are becoming limited since she is depositing most of her pay to another account.
You sure? The idea of a man kissing your W, other trust issues like lying...there must be things you don't want to accept but are choosing to. I'm just saying that hiding your deeper angers (IF you are) will cause rationality to end during a heated argument. Make sure. Then deal with those thoughts.
Originally Posted By: LSG
I am sure it is me having no job.
There has to be more. Look deeper. If you can't find it, do some reflection or ask for a list. MLC, maybe. Job alone? Maybe it is the words said during an argument?
Originally Posted By: LSG
Yes, if she was really sincere. I do not want a divorce!
How would you know? Wouldn't that take time? Are you making an environment at home to draw her back in? If she does fully come back, then expectations and boundaries can be set. I read Sandi2's story and if I understood her Hs reaction correctly, I was struck by the think my W and (perhaps) you haven't given fully.
Time to deal with the repercussions of the sitch without frequent criticism. Actions like taking money out of the bank seem wrong from my POV from both of you. She had some excuse/reason, and a solution was found. Taking the money didn't solve it, your discussion did.
Good work on the 180s! They don't all need to cost money. Look deep and read lots - try to really figure out what had been eating at you and her. Look for more opporunities, LSG~
