Do you really need to actually date other folks to know you can do it?
Seriously, dating other people isn't difficult. Wanting to keep dating them after a while is a whole other ball game... as is wanting to stay married to somebody who keeps messing with you.
I know if my W and I were to actually divorce, I sure would be dating... often and a few concurrently when possible.
But that's a boundary I am not crossing while married.
You ask a good question, "do you really need to ACTUALLY date other folks to know you can do it?"
My answer... YES.
Knowing something and doing something are two different things and both are going to yield different results. The feeling you will get from actually dating is going to be different from what you assume it will be. A lot of people on these forums with low confidence levels need the confidence boost that is obtained from knowing they have options. Yes it's external validation and I prefer to be internally validated but external validation has it's place as well so don't knock dating.
