My STBXW did Tony Horton's Power 90 tapes back after D7 was born and she got down to a very, very buff size 4. Things improved between us when she was in shape ... sorry, wistful moment.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
Sorry guys...I'm not doing the workouts to catch a new man or leave my old one, I just want my outside to match the person I picture myself like on the inside. I used to be a comfortable size six and got back there the summer H started his affair...unfortunately when I felt my most attractive and confident, he was sleeping with someone else! I went from an 8 to a 12 last late winter when Dan moved out (I am an emotional eater! Wish I had the LBS problem of weight loss!)...
I got back to an 8 at the start of this school year but gained an astounding ten (TEN!) pounds in one month mid-Jan to mid-Feb as my divorce was being finalized--stupid emotional eating! So I am creeping into size 10 territory again. I know size shouldn't matter but I picture myself smaller than I am and do not like the way my clothes fit...not to mention I just want more muscle tone and cardio endurance so I am going to challenge myself. I am doing it for me and noone else...
I was waiting at the doctor's office for Nathan today and I read the Sandra Bullock interview. She was asked about the situation with Jesse, whether she knew about the infidelity before it leaked to the press, if she knew about the Nazi hat picture, etc etc.
She said, paraphrasing, "No I didn't know until I heard it from the reporter that day.(the infidelity) And when I saw the Nazi pictures I was sad and disappointed. I don't know what will happen in the future with Jesse, but I know that there is no room, no tolerance in my life for homophobia, sexism, racism, etc." And regarding filing for divorce: "I don't know how our paths will intersect down the road, but I filed. There is just no place in my life for those things, And the man I married didn't believe in them either."
Anyway I wish I had the direct quotes but basically she did the hardline thing a lot of the veterans here suggest. She admitted she still loved her H but she told him straight up he had no place in her life as long as he was engaging in that type of behavior and modeling those belief systems...wish I had been strong enough to stand by my convictions and do that when I got bombed...
BBJ - MY GOD! We are one in the same!!! Same creep up creep down in sizes... (same ones, too, well, kind of...)
I know it took you awhile to be okay w/your path.. but I want you to know... I've followed along for a LONG time. It took me while, too, but I learned from you. And, hopefully. someone will learn from med!
Documentation of the process is painful, but real.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Mind, that is such a compliment! Thanks! I think you are pretty awesome yourself... Yeah it's funny (not really!) but I have a closet ranging from 6-12 but whatever size I am it always seems the clothes in that size are from a different season...Got some 'motivational' clothes for summer that I bought without trying on..oops! Hopefully they will fit post boot camp!
NNP...I don't know why they don't have separated. I just left mine married until I was single because I didn't like the whole "It's complicated" thing. Felt like it was just asking the gossips in my friend list to speculate...
It's Milkshake Monday! Kids and I have a name for every night of the week Mon-Fri...they are having chocolate-chocolate chip-banana shakes, meanwhile I am having a Muscle Milk protein drink and a banana...yay me!
BBJ - LMAO - The MissMe Jeans on my fb page... are a size DOWN from where I am, but where I WANT to be!! LMAO!!! Oh, and, I was thinking... why don't we pool them? Then, when you're being a skinny minny, you can have all of my 6's, and when one of us is being a lard ass, they can have our 10's! Whatcha think?
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.