Stop thinking about things you aren't even sure of. Are you thinking all these things based on the ads again?
Irregardless of whether or not he got someone pregnant, you can't continually let his actions (real and perceived) get to you.
OK, let's put it this way. IF he did get someone pregnant, what have you done to PROTECT you and your son? The economy isn't the issue. What are YOU going to do to survive?
Detach your emotions and STOP being so co-dependent.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
You know...even if you are RIGHT rysmom, you are your own worst enemy right now.
You're like chicken little and the sky is falling.
You say you are codendendant on him and don't know how to stop so you called him?
That is like saying Im fat, and I am so upset at being fat I ate a donut.
Umm and for the record Mr Bond is right...what are YOU doing to protect your house...he is being nice, he isn't coming out and calling you pathetic.
This could be YOUR wake up call.
The one were YOU take charge of your life instead of meekly living in the shadows of your husband, I am not saying get a divorce...I am saying get a backbone and take charge and some responsibility for your future.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
No im not driving by his house. You don't know my h, how he spends money. He buys everyone expensive gifts so that they like him. even if he hardly knows them. Attorney said i should file because h could be dissipating assets and i could lose financially. You would not believe all of the stuff he was looking at on internet to buy for her and her kids. He is addicted to spending. another reason he left was because i don't buy things to make me happy, I try to find happiness in myself, he didn't like that i didn't shop.
No its not the ads. if you have a gmail acct. at the top it says web history. If you go to that, it shows all of the web sites that were visited for that day on his email acct.
Checking his web history is just as bad. All you're doing is making yourself worry about something that may or may not be true.
Another thing is, if you know he has a history of crazy spending, then buckle down your savings if you can and get a job. Any job.
Stop coming up with excuses as to how bad the economy is. If everyone thought like that, then the country couldn't run. Or file for unemployment and government assistance. Just something.
I understand you're going to school, but just say, what would happen if your H was gone. How would you survive? How would you AND your son survive.
You can't count on your H right now. You can't have him. He doesn't want you. That's the truth. As bad as that sounds, it's the truth. I don't need to KNOW him. It's the reality of the situation.
You said you're a runner. Well you're running uphill now. You're going to have to fight for every step. But you have to FIGHT.
Stop feeling so sorry for yourself. I have a friend who is a single parent who just lost one of her children in an accident. She deals with it on her own. She has dealt with it and has made it a point to move on. You can do it to.
First off I would really suggest you get some professional help. You've come up with so many excuses of how you are codependent on your H, how you have no friends, etc. Well now you know what your problems are.
You have two choices...live or die. Is the latter really an option? Is that what you want to show your son? That his mom was a weak woman who complained about how life was "unfair" all the time? Or do you want to show him a woman who is strong and leads by example? Watch the Blindside for an example of a strong woman. You can do it.
There's your 2x4 for the day.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
