WS's very often use anger to control their spouse.
The LBS asks for something The WS gets angry The LBS worries the WS may leave them for good The LBS then falls over backwards to please the WS The WS stops being angry The LBS then feels more hopeful
Its classic enablement... Very often duing the DB process your spouse will show ANGER... you have to learn to accept it and NOT let that control you.
If they want something unreasonable and get angry, just LET THEM... don't back down on that or they will keep using that tactic to manipulate you
Allan A,
Here goes a classic WAS script:
LBS asks for "need" which hasn't been met by WAS in a long time WAS gets angry, deflects and blame LBS for being selfish LBS tries again, being reasonable mentioning "this need hasn't been met in X long" WAS gets angrier, chopping down LBS hopes LBS backs down rejected
WAS was getting that "need" met outside the R.
WAS's usually get angry when you ask or demand them to meet a standard requirement of marriage. WAS is usually happy when LBS picks up much more "yoke" of the load than they should take so they can get more pleasure out of their "cake eating".
While WAS is "cake eating" they obviously do not want to be bothered with their marriage.
