I understand wanting to be prepared for the possible direction a talk could take!
I have to disagree that your W has not been cold. Maybe we define cold in a different way but having you served with custody papers w/o so much a mention to you is pretty cold IMO. Perhaps harsh would have been a better word to use.
And yes, civil was sort of what I meant by a "positive vibe". You want to show your children despite the circumstances you can remain positive about your life and remain positive when you have to deal with your W.
Maybe right now, aside from the custody issue, you don't have to decide what you want. It's very good you are focused on you and feel more detached than you had in the past.
