AND what OIN is failing to see and realize is that when HE treated his wife badly for 10 years, that her continuing to wait on him hand and foot didn't wake him up and cause him to start treating her better. It didn't make him stop verbally abusing her...
So, her unconditional loving and giving didn't work for her either. Imagine if she would have been on here asking for advice and continued to receive the same advice that OIN is getting... THAT didn't work for her to get OIN to wake up and change any better than it is going to work for him. She is only trying to keep peace. Nothing more.
It was ONLY when she STOPPED acting like his servant and started pulling her love away that woke him up..
NOW look at him. She gets treated better when she treats him bad than she got when she waited on his every whim. And yet he is convinced that what didn't work to make him wake up is going to work to make her wake up.. Why would she want to go back to giving love and take the chance of getting treated badly again? She is getting more than she could ever ask by doing what she is doing NOW..
So the very thing that didn't make you treat her any better is now the very thing that you think is going to make her treat you better. Which is giving and giving despite bad treatment..
They just don't get it Puppy.
So you guys don't think a foot rub is in order?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
