John Gray in Mars & Venus writes that " A woman's sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of her relationships."
I've not been one to pursue friendships. One of the reasons is that I've been embarrassed about my personal life. However, I've been wanting my W to pursue friendships, to improve the quality of her life. She has to some extent.
In the spirit of Acting As If, maybe I need to allow her to pursue friendships with other couples, much like we did when we went to lunch with a couple from our dance studio. During that lunch, the topic of vacationing together came up.
My fearful, worrying side thinks about all the different ways it could go wrong. I'm too preoccupied with how they will view me, my W, and our M. Again, my inclinitation is to avoid venturing into something potentially positive, until it seems safe to do so.
I think opportunity is knocking. My W is giving me a chance to move things forward. I need to live life now, and allow positive people into our lives. I preach to my W lately about how we need to keep negative people out of our lives, and invite more positive people in. I think she's on board with this one.
I've been too passive in the past about pursuing friendships, and have let her determine the extent we would be social (which was hardly ever). Our social life was stagnant (my W and I talked about this recently). I have to be flexible enough to allow this to happen, because opportunity is knocking, and my W wants to answer.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
