I think it is out of a deep sense of guilt about how horribly OIN has treated his wife in the past. He's come right out and said it: I tolerate her rude behavior because I subjected her to MINE for far too long.
That's just not healthy, it's NOT going to build respect, and without respect, it won't build loving feelings towards him. But as long as OIN is hung up in this self-flagellation of his own past emotional abuse, and these two BOTH start expecting a healthier, more balanced relationship, based on MUTUAL RESPECT, I just don't see anything different happening other than the current limbo.
