I did it, and I know. Also other men who did the same thing I know of did have to go through so much crap as a result. What you go through is much more than you could ever imagine. Also if he has a reputation where integrity or trust is important, it will be challenged and possibly completely stripped.
You think that your career is immune to what you do in your personal life, don't find out the hard way that whatever dirt they can get on you - they use. Some of these things are sensitive that even having the spectre of doubt raised, will cause you enough trouble.
I was looked at like everything I said was a complete lie for many many years, by people I never would expect - even in my CAREER. Looked at like I was crazy, looked at like I was stupid. The cost was much much more than I could ever imagine. I have to rebuilt my reputation from scratch.
I imagine its the same for most men, they might not say anything. Its a ton of pain.
My pain was worse, because as a result of some of the repurcussions I faced - my appeal dropped to my current wife.
The pain I went through was so bad that I said "I would rather get shot, once a year non-fatally than to go through this pain".
Maybe one of his friends needs to smack him upside the head and let yell at him.
I'd like to talk to him and tell him what happened to me.
