Should I Tell Her to Move On???

[beingreal]

Aww, gr8. This sucks. So very much. I wish I had some advice, but I don't--you are much further ahead of me in this journey.

I will offer some words of encouragment, though. I'm happy to see that you are finally realizing just what a catch you are & that your future is wide open. One day soon you'll find someone worthy of you & you'll be happier than you thought possible. AND...a bonus--you will have this experience to know how NOT to act, and how to keep a R alive & healthy.

As for your W thinking that you are going to remain single forever--well...she just must think pretty highly of herself. That's all I'm going to say. (other than the fact I'm seriously rolling my eyes as I say it)

I don't know what to think of the new friend. I don't feel like I'm in competition with any of my friends. Maybe this new friend is fostering this immature behavior? One of those people who can't be in a happy R, so, therefor, no one should be? I will admit that the thought of dating again scares the hell out of me. I mean, who is going to want a middle aged mom of three who left her body of her 20s actually IN her 20s. Yikes. I'm trying to remember that I have more to offer now than I did in my 20s--more confidence, my own life, my own money, a "can-do" attitude, a lot more life experience that makes me my own person. Those are the things that are going to attract the right person & the things that will keep the right person around. (and just to be on the safe side--I'm stepping up my time with the trainer! lol!)

So while your W may still have *it* on the outside, it sounds like she is really lacking quite a bit on the inside. You've learned so much from all of this & have become a better person for it. I predict in the long run--you will end up happier than she is, and a lot sooner, too.

Have fun dipping your toes back into the pool. It sounds like you have quite a few to choose from. A funny sidenote--I have a friend who joined match.com on the advice of other frineds to help her get over her xBF. The ONLY match to show up in the first round? You guessed it...her xBF. She deleted her profile & never looked back. lmao! Here's to hoping that your story ends much better.