My husband and I have been married for three years. I discovered his affair in January. I confronted him right away. We've been to three therapists and are currently working with a DB coach. He won't stop cheating. He continues his affair with her even after three months. I told him that I want him to stop. Now he's had this woman change her cell phone number so her old number wont show up on our bills anymore so that he can keep talking to her under the facade that it's over between them. Do I confront him on this? How much more of the lies, deception and cheating am I suppose to take? I want to save my marriage but more than that, I want him to stop his relationship with this woman. I will not share my husband's affections with another woman. Help! I don't know what to do anymore. I'm being happy. I'm taking care of me. I'm picking up new hobbies. I'm not nagging him. What? What now? He keeps trying to hid his continued affair. Why does he stay with me?
Because he can. (at least so far).
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I will not share my husband's affections with another woman.
And yet you have . . . since January.
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I want to save my marriage but more than that, I want him to stop his relationship with this woman.
I suspect that your lack of consequences have taught your husband that the OPPOSITE is true. He knows that you are more fearful of losing your marriage, than you are of "doing the right thing" here. You need to LOSE THE FEAR.
What consequences, if any, HAVE you laid out if your husband persisted in cheating on you? Without consequences, Brenalim, boundaries aren't really boundaries at all -- they're more like "geeIwishyouwouldn't's."
Puppy
P.S. Why have you been to THREE different therapists? Have any been family therapists, specifically trained in dealing with infidelity??
