True, and I've read on these forums that it can take a while. I didn't know how significant the fact that my W has shown absolutely no interest in R in 2.5 months was. Other people on these forums sometimes have an ambivalent WS who can't make up their mind if they want to be with spouse or OP. And I have to keep reminding myself that NC is counterintuitive. You'd think I should be contacting my W trying to put my best foot forward, but that'd just let her have the best of both worlds.
