OP is right. I think having a general time frame like you don't see yourself standing here in x years or something like that but if you are focusing on her to show you something it will creep into everything you do and every interaction with her. You will come off as controlling because you are trying to control it.
I was in the same place last week. You'll also become resentful of her for not showing you these signs of your timetable.
No expectations. None. Just hope. Never give up hope.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
