Well nothing to update really, no news on the job front still, but its a bank holiday over here in the uk so not surprising!
Still getting along ok, but I do hanker after our old relationship some times, this one still feels like putting on a new pair of jeans every day, a bit hard and uncomfortable!
Had the first genuine sounding ILY on friday which was really nice and also he rearranged what he was doing to spend some tiem with me, I popped out to ride madam but actually stuck to a schedule time instead of meandering back when done, got home all clean and tidy and he sat there on his laptop and I thought oh great another weekend sat here being ignored so suggested we went out for a bit too which he got ready straight away and we went out for a nice drive and a drink in the pub.
Interesting reading the settling for it thread and wondering im i just settling, and will things change that much when he has a job, atm he cant do loads of romantic gestures we dont have the money, but he does try in other ways, he is much more complementary about my appearance, and I get more hugs and cuddles but I find that hard as I know hes fufilling his needs there and dont know if its a touch of cake eating..
Things are getting better but oh so slowly!
On the topic of going with him the job is just contracting so a) I wouldnt have to and B) no I wouldnt go now with him, he has lost my trust and that will take at least a few years to build up again, once I would have gone any where for him but not now! I want to be near the friends who loved and took care of me when he didnt, where I feel safe! He doesnt acknowledge it mostly cos he doesnt think so,he has lost a large part of me I dont feel Im ever going to be able to give back, bits hopefully one day he will miss!
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
