I'm going to respond to things I've seen you say on other threads! First, you were TOTALLY right about the space for the WH not being a time to "think and grow." That is reserved for us! With an OW, there's just a lot of space to run and explore that. (P's thread.)
Next, this is from BD's thread. (And the DLS posts.) Have you given up on your sitch? I seem to see from time to time that you say that you hoped your WH would return after S was born. But now you see that was foolish. (I'm trying to rephrase you.)
But couldn't he still want to return? After the child is born is a looooong time! Yes, it could still be three years out. Can you wait that long? Can you DB during that time? For me, I don't know if I can wait that long. I do think I would say that I was done.
Just thinkin'.
Also, I totally know what you mean about your real self being kind and considerate towards H. I think I'm the same way. So your distance is a tactical DB move, right? Like a 180? I think you should still try it out for a little longer knowing that it's not the way you really are. Just to see if you get a change from him.
