Phoned him just now. I said thanks for coming over yesterday. It was courageous of you. He said oh thankyou (and clearly meant it).
Then I said I'm calling because I have just been to the hospital for a check-up and the baby's head is 3/5's engaged, so she might come early...maybe in one week. He was interested to hear this. Then I said, I've been thinking and I'd like to take you up on your recent offer to help me in these final days/weeks.
He cried, 'No no no, when will you understand that I have left you? It's crushing me that you don't get it'.
I said, what are you talking about? I have understood that you have left, I get that. What I am talking about is taking you literally when you say how much you love this baby and how much you care for and respect me and want to be my friend and would like to help. So, what's the problem?
No, no, no...I won't be able to assist you in the birth!
I said, I'm not talking about the birth! I'm talking about spending a bit of time helping me with practical things as I get through these last days. And added: When will you get over yourself and realise something bigger than you is about to happen? I am giving you an opportunity here. I thought you would be grateful.
He said, unconvicingly, I'll have to think about it.
Told him he will need to get back to me tonight.
If he responds NO, I am thinking of replying:
Okay H, thanks for considering my offer. I guess I took you at face value when you said you cared and loved this baby and wanted to help out. That's fine, I'll ask someone else.
