When I was talking to one of my two best friends this evening, she kept insisting that I give him a deadline of when he should get it all out.
Have you watched, "Breaking Up". I was at a hotel this weekend and it was a free rental...sad movie. Not sad because breakups are hard. Sad because all throughout the movie, it was clear that by listening to others instead of each other, they just made things appear worse (when in fact they were improving).
Below is some rambling, I hope it makes some sense...but I'm kind of tired~
On these boards, I don't know how many times I clenched my teeth to read someone telling another that their W or H was almost certainly having an affair and to go catch them. Even if they were, that only gives a scapegoat to attack instead of dealing with the problems that led the couple to the breakdown in their R. Having eyes open is one thing, going to act is another.
Act as if he was your H. Do you really want him gone? Setting a deadline, filing, changing locks, and other ultimatums are for deal-breaker issues you have. Is it an issue that his stuff is there for YOU?
My W has this problem. She thinks that by encouraging herself or other women to stand up against a man she is preventing oppression. Even when she is oppressive to the men that way. To be fair to both, both people need to be considered equally valuable - even when someone is wrong. Good intentions aren't always enough when words that cut are given in spite, revenge, or defense. You know how that feels - your H is doing that. Don't be caught by that evil.
