"All rise"

[25yearsmlc]

Will respond 25.

STBXW is ratcheting up the torture. She yelled at me in the back yard so that the kids could overhear re: sale of the house:
-that I am keeping her in the dark
-what an a$$ I look like to everyone
-she's going to demand another $30K reduction in the list price

She is going to ram this sale down my throat. She goes behind my back and changes contractors schedules. She is calling the realtors DAILY to the point that they told me that they are not answering her calls. A friend of mine whose wife is a realtor, told me that he was thinking of buying my house as an investment since the price is so below what it is worth now.

I know this is NOT easy. We all know this. I can't advise you exactly, but I do know that money is only so important and for whatever reason, she wants the house sold at any cost asap. Makes little sense. But you will earn more money & you'll pay your bills, and save some...and she won't. Oh well.

As for the rest of this, the only thing that matters at all (below) is how your son feels and copes with your w's behavior. I assume he looks forward to your time alone. Soon enough, you'll get it. In a better world, you could say something that would wake her up but you'd already have said it if it would work. Perhaps the child c can help...???? Any chance?? But her riding the bike, leaving a cup, turning over a pic, may not be directed at you nearly as much as you say. I think she's like the 2 y/o I saw today at another 2 y/o's party. They are "best friends" to the extent 2 toddlers can be. They don't fight. But at the birthday party when only one of them had presents to open, the other lost it and attacked the birthday girl, then ran off with some presents. Later on she came in "to apologize" but grabbed some cake, not mad at her friend so much as letting her "id" run wild and without filters, grabbing for fear that she'd get nothing..everyone else was bigger ...she also needed a nap...
All I'm saying is that while it may be "hatred," for you, it also may unrelated to you directly and instead sounds like an animal in pain, who feels cornered. Never mind how she got there. She has nowhere to run...Please detach. You are making this even worse for yourself than it already is.

[color:#FF0000]I'm so sorry it's here but soon, you'll be past this. Can't wait.
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Friday night, my night with the kids, I came home early. S9 had a scout meeting at 6:15P. I had previously asked to have dinner with the kids. She drove off with them. S9 is afraid of her. When I approach him to talk with him, he becomes afraid and wants to terminate the conversation, "Dad..no....mom might come upstairs."

Today, while cleaning up, she dumped dishes on my files and papers again, left a dirty cup on my half of the bathroom sink (I think S9 left it there), put my father's cadette portrait from WWII face down on the floor (he passed in '95) and then, humiliating, rode on the brand new bicycle I purchased for S9 and 'made him' ride the smaller kids bike that I bought to replace it. When I said that I would fill her tires with air and to let him ride, she outwardly refused saying , "S9 said I could ride it and I'm going to."

(sigh)

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