AAK, I kind of get what you're saying. It did occur to me often on the boards that for all the DB one's posterior off advice here, GAL, ad nauseam etc, a contradiction in terms was that a final stand can be found in trying to put the brakes on the WAS train no matter how you phrase it.
"Do it for you, not him/her. Be the best you you can be". Yups sure, but that's about as tenuous as the line between hope and expectation, fear and denial.
Oh and Tjack, I don't quite have the exact words for you but your W seems to be in a wierd combo of entirely checked out of your M and ultimate cake eating. She's got you accepting that you could be good friends, but not meant to be together (typical WAS fog btw), she has you to fall back on as old Faithful while she has options to get her rocks off elsewhere. Perfect for her.
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
