I just read your thread and it seems you are willing to ride along on your STBXW's roller coaster. You do seem like a fish being played at the end of her line. At times you seem like you are ready to jump off the hook, but your feelings and actions are still largely based upon her indecisive swaying.
Get the papers signed.
Establish some firm boundaries and limited contact with her. This is going to be tough on her, but you have to break the hook off the line.
Remain amicable with her for the kids sake, but dont be friends for now. Hugging (and sex) is going to cause major confusion for both of you.
Live your life the way you want it.
Meet lots of different women but dont go jumping into a serious relationship right away. Sample the buffet.
If there is a possibility of reconciliation, it would come much further down the road (several years) after she has owned up to her faults and fixes them. But most likely, one of you will have moved on by then and found someone else.
BTW...You do express yourself very well in your thread. And I believe you know what you must do.
Thanks everyone for the responses. Wow lots of posts since Friday night.
Yes, I agree. Get the papers signed. Clear the path for the future, whatever it may be.
Weekend with the boys. Put up a basketball hoop. They'd been asking for one (the last one was broken in a winter storm). Other than that really took care of the regular things around here - groceries, laundry, etc.
Lonely tonight, but the desire to call STBXW is pretty minimal. I've talked / FB chatted with TM a good deal recently, and there's a lot I could say here about it I guess, but the upshot is "tread carefully" is where I am with it.
Don't know, lots going on in my head but not a lot to say about it I guess. Maybe that's good, starting to see "it is what it is" vs. expressing all the mind chatter.
OK I've been sitting here for awhile just thinking. Going to wrap it up. Have a good Monday everyone.
Thanks everyone for the responses. Wow lots of posts since Friday night.
Yes, I agree. Get the papers signed. Clear the path for the future, whatever it may be.
Weekend with the boys. Put up a basketball hoop. They'd been asking for one (the last one was broken in a winter storm). Other than that really took care of the regular things around here - groceries, laundry, etc.
Lonely tonight, but the desire to call STBXW is pretty minimal. I've talked / FB chatted with TM a good deal recently, and there's a lot I could say here about it I guess, but the upshot is "tread carefully" is where I am with it.
Don't know, lots going on in my head but not a lot to say about it I guess. Maybe that's good, starting to see "it is what it is" vs. expressing all the mind chatter.
OK I've been sitting here for awhile just thinking. Going to wrap it up. Have a good Monday everyone.
May as well keep quiet with it. So you've lost desire for the STBXW?
Hey Geronimo, to make light of these situations they could make a TV series about some of us men... "Extreme Cuckholds". I know where not real cucks, but they forced us into the position.
Mmmmmm divorce reality show. Not sure I'd sign the waiver; sometimes I wonder about the wisdom of posting everything here on the internet that I do.
Yeah - roller coaster doesn't really stop, does it? Think the mildly manic enthusiasim I've felt for the past few weeks is giving way to feeling that lonliness at night. I'm not particulary down today, I think just much more in tune with my moods and inner workings than I used to be.
One of my boys was up all night, and therefore so was I. So tired this morning he was in tears, STBWX kept him home from school. This has been going on, but I think right now a lot of it is from allergies. Clariton isn't working, I think it's time for Benedril.
I guess that's part of my feeling right now - is realizing I'm the only one on duty. S is tired, I'm tired, I don't have a good solution, and nobody to turn to and say "what now?" And then when she says "I've decided to..." that's not really talking it out. It's just different.
