Settling

[pearlharbr]

With "unwilling", circumstances and time can compel a person to make changes.

Can. Possibly. Not definitely. That's why in my mind it's not really that different. There is no way to know IF someone will ever change. You make decisions based on past and present experience. Trying to make decisions based on possible future outcomes isn't going to do you any good.

FWIW, I too am a child of divorce. It's not ideal but children do survive. BF's parents are still together and he's just as messed up from their relationship. As far as I'm concerned it's a wash.