Husband left me 3 months pregnant...

[newmama]

Ok when you said if your H wants a D then he needs to "man up" and do it, it is EXACTLY how I am feeling and have been since he brought it up in March! My friends and family have asked why I don't push it along, and I say HE NEEDS TO FEEL IT EVERY STEP OF THE WAY. I did say to you to sign them if you felt it would help you to detach. But the principle of your H needing to be responsible for it since he is the one who wants it is something I totally agree with and support 10000%!

Are you sure you don't want a baby shower? Why not exactly? If you do want your ILs in your baby's life, then this is a good start- your H won't be there and I guarantee that 99% of the baby shower talk will be about the baby and your pregnancy!

Please think about it before you send the email. Others may disagree but I am so grateful to have my ILs support.

And your mom- wow! What a typical response from your H "I don't know" why he left...but he "doesn't love you." ?????????? Ummm you would think he would have some clear reasons and not the numb, blanket "I don't know" response.

I do think it is interesting that he brought up that whenever he started talking baby, you started talking reconcile.

I say that because now you know a 180 you can implement. Bonding over the baby is huge and if you want to be with him, use that opportunity but don't discuss your future together. There is a risk that he could still want a D, but if you do want to reconcile, use all of your ammo.

What is the most you can handle regarding baby stuff and seeing him without causing you too much pain?

Sorry babydoll...this has to be seen in 3 ways. 1)paving the way for reconciliation 2) paving the way for divorce and co parenting 3)paving the way of limbo....