Wrote an email to H's parents. they want to host a baby shower dinner with their family for me... Ummm No Thank You! I was so polite and gracious and loving in the email (too chicken to call them)but declined their offer. I saved the email draft and will send from work tomorrow.
Couple of things mentioned
- I am not even having a shower with my own family and friends. -- And I am registering for baby gear, and if they choose to help out than so be it... sorry to sound like expect gifts, but I started recieving things, and mine as well select what I like and think is safest.His family has also made it clear that they will choose things for me if i dont register. - I hope they will be part of the baby's life the same way, if their son hadnt left. -My home and my heart will always be open to them and all of their family to visit me and my son - I have tried every thing under the sun to work things out with their son
Now when IL's read the email, I can be sure they will show H. and H will turn around and make me out to be the villian and that I wont allow him in my life as a friend or to be part of the baby planning process b/c I said its either all or nothing.
What is your advice... Do i allow him to take part in all the baby planning and birth etc.? Will it harm me more? What are the pros and cons...
