If an attractive woman were to have complimented me, admired me, and gave me everything that I was desperately craving in my life, could I have resisted? I would like to think I could, but I really don't know.
This is all about boundaries and understanding consequences. I have no problem answering this myself even in my situation: it would not happen while I am married for certain. It's a boundary I have set for myself. People with high integrity do not become romantically involved with people they are not married to, and they certainly don't have sex with them.
Apart from the boundaries, there are consequences: self-loathing, guilt, bringing home an STD are all possibilities. That is all without even considering the feelings of my W.
I haven't always had such clear boundaries, but then I didn't get married when I knew I had a problem setting boundaries.
There is no excuse for this kind of betrayal. It is simply wrong. It is never right, and you should not be enabling such behavior by making excuses for it. It's wrong. Period.
That doesn't mean you can't forgive somebody and move on leaving the bitter feelings of resentment and betrayal behind. You can, but an A is never right. Period.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
