Hey, I think you're talking to NM, but here are my unexperienced thoughts, BD: I think a benefit of GALing is that you BECOME happy with the separation. Not that you don't want reconciliation, but that you see what the separation can give you-- time to grow, think, explore, and space for him to do the same-- and find contentment in that.
It reminds me of that prayer or poem or whatever to. . . well, shoot, all I can remember is --okay, I googled it! It's the serenity prayer-- to accept what you cannot change. None of us can change our separated status right away. We have to go through it. And make the best of it.
There does come a point, I'm sure, when you see that that reconciliation may not be reasonable. And it will hurt. But if you're processed as much as you could and GALed a lot, that space can be navigated more smoothly. It might even be facilitated by a new man in the picture, who knows?
All that said, I really don't know what I'm talking about and more experienced people probably have better advice.
